I deleted my post. Wasn't trying to hide, rather thought that my knowledge of the details of everything is too little to say much.
What I did write and still agree with is that when you run a forum it is different than free speech in public. If I set the rules of a forum then I am establishing an environment. I make the environment and the rules that allow whatever is happening on my forum to happen, good or bad, and not moderating/not intervening is a conscience choice at a certain level. It's not the same as posting the content myself, but it isn't the same as being 100% detached from it either.
Anyway, I understand now about the lack of replies. Thank you for reminding me.

Not trying to be cheeky at all and definitely understand that moderating can be difficult.
Back on topic... I hope all you coders don't have any more run ins with clients set on dishing out misery. This site is really helpful for learning how to build mods one's self