When members have a sense of 'entitlement'

[MPDev]

Perfect examples, Michael. On a related note, I used to have a pretty relaxed standard for posting on one of my sites; still do in fact, but only now the ground rules include "respect". I've decided that there is enough trash/smack talking out there that anyone can go to any number of sites and find it - so on my site we don't allow it. You either communicate respectfully or you are told you are not welcome on our site.

You might think this would hurt membership, but it hasn't. We have hundreds of users online at any given time (down from the thousands when we allowed nude photos) and a stronger sense of community by the contributing members. Many people on our site say they stay for the friendships they have made and thats just the way I want it.

I can get trash talk anywhere. Kicking back and enjoying some good talk with people who aren't morons is alot more fun than the alternatives, IMO.