I think the way flashchat works is either/or but not both. I have it set up integrated into my site, whereas I don't allow guests to chat - only registered members. However, my question about realchat is, how can someone moderate - apporoving or discarding any messages - in real time? It would make sense to me that that would not be real time, whereas a pause would ensue while waiting for moderation. Maybe I'm confused. I've always considered real time to happen as it goes - with moderation happening after the message has bene posted.
Realchat is probably better for you then. Although I know there is a censor list and there are dozens of bots that do various things I don't think this can allow a moderator to approve or discard on the fly. LOL, I'd hate to be the moderator doing that job.
Yes there would be a pause - so it's not realtime as such. But pretty quick....
We want to set up our chat room this way as this is the idea of it. But when we do we would limit the number of members who could log in. I also wouldn't want to be the mod with 250 users logged in trying to send messages. Maybe we'd have to limit it to 50 users or so....