I can tell you what i do.
I do nothing with the server, unless there are files that should be uploaded.
There are always , ore most of the hacks a "how to do" file with the pack.
Upload the product in the Product Manager with the supplied XML file.
I would suggest, that you start with small projects. And i recomand all the hacks from Paul M. They are quick and helpfull.
Dont try out a big hack in the beginning.