[jj]

Just looked into your changes I think if you can use a self-made bbcode you also could use the standard url bbcode so there is no need to add a custom bbcode. You could do that by inserting

[url=$2/profile.php?do=addlist&userlist=buddy&u=$3]click to accept[/url]

into the phrase. For example (a 3rd person message phrase version):

Hello,

$1 has added you to his buddy-list. If you like to get friends you need to add $1 to your buddy-list, too.

[url=$2/profile.php?do=addlist&userlist=buddy&u=$3]Click here[/url] to add $1 to your buddy-list now.

The Board Admin

Now if you go on with the code I posted above to use the Username in the title and message, we get

$anti_autopm_bud_tit = str_replace("$1",$vbulletin->userinfo['username'],$vbphrase[anti_autopm_bud_tit]);
$pmdm->set('title', $anti_autopm_bud_tit); 
$anti_autopm_bud_mes = str_replace("$1",$vbulletin->userinfo['username'],$vbphrase[anti_autopm_bud_mes]);
$anti_autopm_bud_mes = str_replace("$2",$vbulletin->options['bburl'],$anti_autopm_bud_mes);
$anti_autopm_bud_mes = str_replace("$3",$vbulletin->userinfo['userid'],$anti_autopm_bud_mes);
$pmdm->set('message', $anti_autopm_bud_mes);

I haven't tested the above thing and don't know if it works, but you may work it out yourself Keep on the learning.