I have done all of the above and my name is still white. Here is my site.
www.sonaf.com/forums
and my user name is: [SONAF]CHIEF-GOA
I just figured it out. If you had a "primary usergroup" and a "display usergroup" you have to only use primary usergroup. I have Ranks on the forums and I am Administrator by default but display usergroup shows a General of the Army avatar, so I have Admin as my primary and GOA as my display user group. dont know it that makes sense.