[Jolten]

You've simply got the tags wrong.

You have:

<if condition=="">
stuff
</if>
<else />
<if condition="">
</if>

What you need is:
<if condition="">
stuff
<else />
<if condition="">
stuff
</if>
</if>

The basic structure is <if> blah <else /> blah </if> If youwant to embed an conditional with in the else statement then it needs to be self contained so <if> blah <else /> <if>blah</if> </if> but the wrapping conditional needs to still maintain the same structure.

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