[altsounds]

Yeah I dont think your getting me entirely here. The unlink option in vbfriends allows "me" to unlink someone on "my" buddy list. For what I'm trying to do here the user would need to remove "themselves" from the "requestors" buddylist hence removing them from the pending friend requests box (as the pending friends request box is based on the (Whos linking to me) part of vbfriends. So my guess would be this would have to be done using SQL and PHP and I'm ++++ @ both so if you could hand hold me through this that would be awesome. As I said, if I can get this I can release this hack that people can improve.