oops, that username was never apart of the grps_user column
here's the table straight from phpmyadmin
Code:
recordid groupid userid join_date mod_queue
Edit Delete 4 3 10 1102848936 NULL
Edit Delete 3 2 10 1102848632 NULL
Edit Delete 13 6 10 1106781470 NULL
Edit Delete 12 3 64 1106777848 NULL
Edit Delete 9 2 64 1106568571 NULL
Edit Delete 10 7 64 1106661929 NULL
Edit Delete 14 6 64 1106781499 0
Edit Delete 16 7 10 1106842883 1
now i just ran a query to change al them nulls to 1 and it never worked, i think theirs something seriously wrong with the mod_queue column
i'm gonna try and delete it and reinstall it, as i have no idea why it won't work still.
works fine now

changed it to in_mod_queue just to be safe and it's working fine.
thank you everyone, sorry to waste your time.