Belay that "Sorry" - I found it!
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Found the solution
on DevShed - you need <param name="wmode" value="transparent" /> in your object definition, and in your embed tag, add wmode="transparent" and you should find your menu's over the top of your Flash movies
Note: there are three instances of the Flash call in the arcade_play template, so be warned
Some Flash movies will misbehave in this state - in that they need tohave explicit backgrounds in this scenario or they will mount on the backdrop of your arcade_play template ... so you may also wanna add a <div style="background-color:black"> wrapper round your Flash call as well - as flash movies default to a black background if they don't already have a explicit backdrop.
HTH y'all