bleh ignore that.. i was tired.. i misread how it worked... i was thinking it checked the "inbox" but i reads the actual mail spool.... i was thinking that it parses the already bounced emails and not the pre-sent emails....
hence the "mail from other servers" ie. if you bounce a message it comes back from
postmaster@aol.com or whatnot....
but i understand how it works now. now just to get it working for exim, and shared servers.