Well Ozzy, i passed 2 hours with the tech on my server and they can't see anything wrong on their side lol
There is a ghost in the machine somewhere

I'm wondering if it as to do with the new patch !??! Was working fine before so .... if server is OK and i can send password recovery, diagnostic but can't use mailing system or activation code, i have a gap in the between for sure ...but where ???
Strange situation it is :P