Well I used this software,
http://www.mediascripts.com/
The Social Media one. Then you have to make sure your host supports it, alot of them say they do, but I found out that quite a few hosts had no friggin clue how to set up the proper codecs to allow the software to work.
I had tries about 4 other video scripts as well, but that one was the best in the end, when configured right, I was able to convert and load 3+ hour movies to the site.