Gemma, firstly good luck in your surgery and as socialteenz said if you need help just ask, we'll all do what we can to get you back up and secure
I got hacked about 3 months ago by Anonymous simply so they could use my server to send millions of emails asking people to rise up against parliment and congress.
By hook or by crook i managed to get in contact with someone who could contact them, i asked them to stop and why they were doing it, they simply said it's unfortunate that there are casualties of war!, i got blacklisted everywhere and felt like you, but i put my head down and got to it, now i still have my playground and still enjoying it