[Rapscallion]

If you don't enjoy it and it gives you money, it's a job.
If you enjoy it and it costs you money, it's a hobby.
If you enjoy it and it gives you money, you have a fantastic job.

The next one? If it costs money and causes grief, then either change it to stop causing grief or stop doing it.

If you want to make it enjoyable for you, then you've got a shedload of work ahead of you. It would involve sacking a few moderators who claim you don't own the place and banning the more mouthy members. Give them a warning first, but remember that a warning is only effective if you're willing to carry it out.

However, when things got fairly bad for me when I bought my main forum (mutiny amongst the inherited moderator and admin team when I questioned what they were doing), a guy at work stopped me in one aisle and asked what was up.

I told him that every time I thought about the forum, my guts started churning, and it felt like an ulcer was trying to burn a hole in my insides. Made me feel as if I wasn't allowed friends.

"Is that all?"

"Eh?"

He'd been in the air force as ground crew for two decades. He'd seen three of his mates blown to pieces in front of him on active service.

That brought it home to me. Was I really trying to placate people who were just words on a screen and not paying the bills?

Sacked the mutinous lot before they could publically leave, and from what I understand they were about to jump ship very soon with as many members as possible. I learned a valuable lesson - they act with my permission, not the other way around. Most of the time I'm not overly worried by what my team does, since they're generally good people and think right, but I always remember that I have to carry the can for what they do, and though I'll back them to the hilt when they're right I reserve the right to question what they do in private.

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