Thank you, I did what you said, and it turned out looking like this:
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I just put "1" for the border and it seems to much. I would like them really thin and dim, like here on vbulletin.org. I looked at the source code for this forum and couldn't find what code it would be, i noticed it said "0" for borders, so thats confusing me. also would you happen to know how to add the vertical colors of white and gray at the separations, also like here on vbulletin.org?
Thanks again Lynne, I finally feel like I'm getting somewhere.