I think you can simply edit the postbit template. Find these lines:
HTML Code:
<if condition="$show['moderated']">
<td class="alt2" id="td_post_$post[postid]">
<else />
<td class="alt1" id="td_post_$post[postid]">
</if>
And change it to something like:
HTML Code:
<if condition="$show['moderated']">
<td style="background-color:yellow;" id="td_post_$post[postid]">
<else />
<td class="alt1" id="td_post_$post[postid]">
</if>
yellow is probably a bit, um...., strong, so you may want to pick another color. Or, instead of that you could go:
HTML Code:
<if condition="$show['moderated']">
<td class="alt2" id="td_post_$post[postid]">
<div style="color:red; font-weight:bold;">This post is moderated.</div>
<else />
<td class="alt1" id="td_post_$post[postid]">
</if>
Or whatever you want.