For those interested my forum is at present closed and i run nothing else on this hostgator shared hosting account, my server load for 2cpu's is reading 6.12 and flashing a red dot.
I would like to thank all for replying to this thread as I thought it was me causing that load, it has been higher, now I know it obviously isn't. I have been advised to go with Surpass and get rid of hostgator, who I came to from 1 and 1 (wouldn't touch them again)
A very happy Tinkerbell
Update - server load is at 74.62 for 2 cpu's with hostgator's shared hosting, time to find someone else i think!!!