UPDATE to my situation.
I moved to a VPS. It had 256 mg memory. I kept getting database errors. I just upped it to 512 yesterday. (It's too soon to tell if this will stop the problems but I'm still concerned about too many connections.)
EVERYBODY tells me my problems are caused by the Arcade. (Except Morty - and I had Brian take a look at my vBAdvanced CMPS modules and he says they're all fine).
I **only** have 40 games installed and don't plan to add to that... I plan to rotate games in/out occasionally.
All the advice I've been given is to remove the arcade. I keep being told to move to a dedicated server.
I only have 1400+ members, around 600 active... most online ~50.
Is there some setting or some thing I could do to the Arcade to fix this? Is there something I could have done wrong on install that would make too many concurrent connections?
Does anybody have any ideas?
I want to keep the arcade with 40 games
add blogging
and run my forum on this VPS without having to spend more money.
Is this possible?
If you've gotten this far, thank you. I'll listen to all opinions, even if I don't decide to follow them.