Going about the information above, I checked my second (default but modified by me) skin and the template changes hadn't merged over to it.. So even though we could all see the chatbox, the template changes were not made and we didn't have the options in our CP and that's why saving in the CP booted us from the box. That's my fault.
So now statistics show and everything, except I can't figure out this "mgc box" to the right of my top advertisement... What did I do wrong please

Thanks!
Andrew
EDIT: got it, in my skin the navbar code is actually in the header template. I found the spot, put the code in and it's working fine!
OH and welcome back, I'm glad everything has worked out for you at home