[cynthetiq]

seems like you sow sour grapes for whatever reason. I don't know why you bothered to post a discussion and then decide you won't engage in the discussion. seems more like a troll post than anything else.

and what a martyr post, "I may be banned here for speaking my mind..." what a cop out. Speak your mind if you are so honest, not try to garner emotional logical fallacy support.

the site that I'm a mod with is over 5 years old, we have over 50,000 members we read PMs, we read private journal entries. We're upfront about it. It is our responsibility to the community to be aware of what our members are doing to other members. It attracts members that donate, there is no advertising allowed from members site spamming. With 50,000 members we don't have time to read them all, we only get involved if we see there is a problem that can crop up.

So far we've been able to ditch many people from pedophiles to plain aholes. We use the simplest method, plain banning and manning the stations when someone decides to try to fool the admin/mods. We're good at vetting out underages (our forum is 18+).

What is great about this is that we have choices. If you don't like them, pick up your marbles and play somewhere else.