I think a big part of the problem is, I misunderstood your instructions in the Flashchat-vb-integration.txt file. For instance, where you said:
Step 3. (optional)
Edit ../chat/inc/config.php
I edited the copy that came with FlashChat on my local HD and then FTP'd it up to my site. In doing so, I'm guessing I've overwritten the 'good' file that was left there by the FlashChat install process.:tired: So now, no tellin' what all I'm missing besides the vbulletin36CMS file specification you denoted.
Is my best bet to just remove FlashChat altogether and reinstall it again? Then, when I get to your part of the integration I'll know this time to copy down what I have from the server, edit it, and then put the files back in place.