[Talisman]

Think of it like this, mindcry... If you decided to throw a party and invited a few [thousand] friends ... just how strict would you be if they started tearing up your home? How far would you let that go before they were no longer welcome? ... before you'd call the police to have them escorted away?

When you invite members to join your community, they are like guests in your home. You've put a lot of time and effort arranging the food, entertainment, and everything else for their enjoyment. It's one thing if they get silly and boisterous -- a few broken plates, some spilled wine on the carpet, someone dancing on the table wearing a lampshade .. maybe -- but these things are to be expected.

As site owner/admin, you get to set the limits in your forum that you feel are appropriate for the enjoyment of your entire membership ... exactly the way you would when playing host at a party with guests in your home.