One Woman = Big Fat Headaches for Forum
 

You'd be amazed how much damage one stupid 20 year old girl can do to a forum of a bunch of guys. I run a local car site. Small community, everyone knows each other off the forum. The forum is mostly day time entertainment for a lot of guys at work.

One of my moderators starts dating a girl, and I'm happy for him. He's a friend who doesn't seem to have luck in that area.

A few months later, him and her aren't really in a relationship yet. And she's now using the shout box for attention regularly. Then she's flirting with different members. She's pretty attractive to a point, minus her two kids (yes at 20). Then some drama starts to crop up.

I want to can this dumb girl, becuase I've had this happen before. But my one moderator didn't want me to. But yesterday I had enough and banned her.

The problem here though, is that several guys on this site have been interested or in a semi-relationship with her already. And she is bouncing around. This is overall bad. VERY VERY BAD. A female can cause a rift between a bunch of guys very quickly. And if that guy is emotionally involved with her (even more so sexually) then he'll be 10x more likely to side with her case. Case in point, one member who is the guy currently involved with her, at the hip, made a post today about me being an +++++++.

I decided to finally ban this chick after some of the female members started to complain about her, her drama just keeps spreading.

Then today I get this PM from her:

Oh please, just go the frack away you lil drama queen.

See, I want to get rid of her, becuase I know that a girl can get people going in different directions really fast. And it's already starting to happen.

I can't curb it any further. She didn't break any rules, but I do have these few clauses in my forum rules:


Anyone ever have this happen to them?

Yeah, when I was in high school. :)

The golden rule, defined or not, is that if you piss off the admin then you're apt to get banned. It's your forum and at the end of the day you pay the bill. She (obviously) doesn't have a leg to stand on in any legal sense, so don't sweat it. The internet is full of drama queens. If that happened on my site, personally I'd put up a forum for a few days devoted to making fun of her with that PM as a sticky, but that's just me.

Well, apparently all the guys involved with her are not smart enough to see the connections I see.

They just split form the group, my main guy also deleted himself I just saw. Oh ++++ing well.

Don't even get me started on this, females can cause more issues on forums. Mostly because every guy on there is like "OMG it's a WOMAN!!!" and start flocking straight to her.

i get the lawyer/sue threats about once or twice a month on my forums.

I know she doesn't have a leg to stand on, its just funny.

Females are crazy and drive males insane.

Good job getting rid of her. :p

I've recently had more or less the same problem with an idiotic child. I finally banned him, and a few members have left to join his forum, but they'll be back.

Just don't back down. And they can never sue you; The vBulletin default rules cover all forum actions, really. :p

Sorry this topic is funny :p

You'll laugh of it someday.

If someone is getting on my tits I always stick them on 404 banning :D