Life evaluation
 

Quite a serious topic :) If you were to sit down now and spend an hour evaluating your life and the direction it's going and the good/bad decisions you have made, how would you rate it?

Examples:
- What is the worst decision you've ever made in your life and how did it affect you?
- How did you get through it?
- If you could go back and change anything that you've done what would it be?
- What has been the best decision you've made?
- Do you feel like your life is going in the direction you want it?

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Sometimes its better to not look back but to learn from the mistakes and focus on the future.

I dont wish to change anything in the past because right now I am the happiest I have ever been.

Not to trash the thread, but I bet most people will not want to divulge their worst life-long mistakes in a public Internet forum.

I wouldn't really know which was my worst or best decision. All things considered, I'm quite happy with the way things have turned out. :)

Very well put :)

thing is if you cant look back retrospectivly have you learned anything? sounds like someone is ashamed of their past. yes in life i regret doing some things but i dont try to move on and sweep them under the rug, i face them like a man and i'm honest about what happened. i did the dishonest thing for awhile but couldnt sleep at night now i'm honest. and boy does it make life alot easier

My Life is more or less a waste of Time.

Sometimes when people focus on the past they get angry and it blind them from their true hopes, dreams, and passion.

I have lived the past once and suffered the consequences of my actions and now its time to move on.

Gotta live in the tomorrow. Thats the problem with a lot of people these days, they dont think about the future because they are too busy thinking about the now or the past.

Thanks

Its only a waste of time when your not doing anything to make it better.

Self pity and hate will only further inpair your judgement.

What's the meaning of "inpair"? Never heard this before.

impair is to impede, distort, skew something along those lines
tomorrow never comes living in the future is bad things happening as well because the future is an abstract idea that one can never hit. it is always the present and past.

Yes I meant impair. What bad things could come from planning for the future? Why would somoene live in the past when they have already lived it. Theres is not much we can do about the present as it is what it is now but we can do something about the future.

the bad things for always thinking of the future is: to worry too much, or some may get hallucination that they already reach ityou're right, but it is always the present.

no past.

I was also a person who didn't know today, I was always thinking of the tomorrow's lessons and the bad points past exams and took them to my worried list. very bad life it was. Things've change I'm the happiest ppl, looking to be happier. the worst thing of mine is I never get satisfied.

deathemperor
yea i understand as soon as you hit the 'present' it becomes the past. the moment you hit the future it becomes the present and the past in an instant. there is a great debate about time from a science/philosophy background.

in todays society(atleast in the US) there is this assumption that "all i need"(the jerk) mentality. which comes from looking to the future and saying as soon as i get this i'll be happy.

the way to be satisfied is to realize you are limited. with computers/knowledge the more you know the more there is to know. the amount of information goes up exponentially. same with our needs the more we have the more we want. we have to be aware of this physical limitation.

Its that kind of attitude that will get nothing accomplished. If you accept your limitations then you are your limitation.

The way I see it, what happened in my past has made me who I am today. I've made bad decisions, I've made good decisions, there have been some seriously crappy times and some amazing times.... I wouldn't change a second of it - not even the worst moments when I wanted nothing more than to just end everything.

I am very happy and content with who I am right now and I wouldn't be that person if not for my past experiences. :)

Damn true. That's just how I feel as well.

And @ twoseven: You sound just like a girl I know. I made some bad desicions in the past towards her, and she has clearly stated that she will never let that go. This pisses me off to no end, because it's frequently biasing her view on what could be a much brighter future.

Those that live in the past only destroy themselves. If you live in the past because bad things happened you don't want to forget, those things will forever poison you and ultimately make you unable to feel happy about anything you have in the present. If you live in the past because good things happened you don't want to forget, you will only drive away potential sources of happiness in the future because you will always compare them to the past. Good things are never forgotten.

But of course, anyone is free to live just however the hell they want. If they want to live in their own little bubble of the past, then that's their choice - just don't whine about all the ++++ things in the present because most of it is your own fault.

(This last paragraph was not directed towards twoseven, it was just a general statement.)


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My past is my past - It has made me who I am today...

I wouldn't change it because I wouldn't be the same - I've made some very bad decisions but currently, aside from a few minor mishaps, my life has never been better :)

Satan

It wouldnt of made you satan?

No I have always been and always will be the Alpha, the Omega and the Satan :p

However I could have been a different Satan;)

Satan

It's like if you go to the past and kill Hitler before he starts the WWII then who knows what would happen, the Earth vanishes ?

There are so many "What if?" scenarios that multiply infinitely the further back in time you go to alter it;)

Satan

i'm not saying i live in the past at all. i'm saying don't brush it off like nothing happened; there is a difference. you can't be stoic about the past. and you cant constantly focus on the past.

and @ corriewf
there are limitations in life. can you lift a 500lb rock? can you run 4min miles? can you swim underwater for 5mins without comming up for air? these are physical limitations and most likly you cant do them. so to try to say you are limitless is bad. we all have limits. you have to recongize those limitations and not try to go on with life like they dont exist.

*shudders* it gives me a headache just the thought of the discussion that statement could bring up.. and yeah I saw the other thread about your version of VB and timetravel! *runs and hides under a rock*

Dunno about corriewf, but I can lift a 500lb rock... I could probably run 4 miles... I dunno about swimming underwater - I always seem to float to the surface after a very brief period under the water, i.e. less than a minute ;)
Hehe - It is true though - If you change something that happened last week, the possibilities of a dramatic change are about 1 in a billion...

However, if you change something that happened last year, the possibilites multiply...

Then something that happened 10 years ago, even greater possibilities...

The point here, is that the further back in time you go to alter something, there are things that exist now because of the way the past played out - You could go back and kill Hitler, come back to the future and find out that the car company Volkswagen was never made, and therefore accidents of drivers of those cars and progress made by the company never happened, therefore more lives are affected, more technology is affected...

Thats just one element of what Hitler introduced to this world, and simply "killing Hitler" can change millions of tiny things that you may not even consider to be important at that point in time, that end up bringing everything in existence and everyone alive today to this point in time :)

It gives me a slight headache to think that if time travel into the past were possible, the damage one person could do by committing a stupid act such as "killing Hitler"...

I'm not saying Hitler was a good man, far from it, but unless you document every single iota of existence in the modern day as you left it, bring it with you, kill Hitler then travel back to the "present", you will never know for sure what exactly has changed...

For all we know, Hitler's actions may have prevented an even greater war that could have happened 10 or 15 years into the future of Hitler's reign, but that was prevented by Hitler's actions...

You just never know...

Satan

satan a 4min mile is different than running 4 miles

Sorry I misread and thought you meant a minimum of 4 miles :p

A 4 minute mile... Downhill maybe :p

Satan

LALALALALALALA *clamps hands over eyes* I'm not reading!!! I'M NOT!!!!! ;)

++++ happens, deal with it.

There are certain limitations that we became aware of around 5 or some other early age and thats not what im talking about.

I dont know about 500 pounds but I did pick up a tranny for a 18 wheeler before. Closest I have been was about 5 minute mile. What I am saying is that miracles happen everyday because there are people out there that make them happen. They didnt accept no for an answer.

Please explain what "tranny" is, because what I think makes you seem weird :p

Satan

in that instance its short for transmission
@corrie
so you think we create our own miracles, that there is no force in nature that causes them? so we are the highest being possable? last time i checked i couldnt make a miracle happen.

the definition of miracle: An event that appears inexplicable by the laws of nature and so is held to be supernatural in origin or an act of God

so by strict definition we cannot create our miracles

Good thing Lance Armstrong didnt have you as a friend when he found out he had cancer. No offense but the world is full of people telling us what we cannot or never will be able to do.

Tranny = Satan's 500 pound momma

Just kidding..... he he

Tranny is redneck talk for transmission.

What I'd like to know is how you knew she was 500 pounds :D

Miracles are my will - Nuff said ;)

Satan

"Not to trash the thread, but I bet most people will not want to divulge their worst life-long mistakes in a public Internet forum."

This would be the best place to say it, you don't have to worry about consequences of people you know, knowing this information, but you do have the opportunity to talk about it.

Actually thats not true. Satan might try and use my faults to get my soul. He almost got me on a viper once....never again....

well last time i checked armstrong didnt cure his body of cancer. there was some outside force. cf. Hume/lewis on miracles. dont go claiming that ones will is a miracle till you understand the full ramifications of that statement

Ones will is a prerequisite to achieving a miracle and if you think that Lance's comeback isnt a miracle then your definition is very strict.

Some religions beleive that the lord works through us.

Worst decision I've made? Joining the Air Force. I've been out of school for over a year and I can't go back until I finish my CDCs, which my supervisors are in no hurry to give me.

Last time I checked that had something to do with having access to the best medical help money can buy.