As a forum owner:

1. you try to be fair, modearte and helpful, always obliging .
2. you put tons of work in, at your own experience level, to give your users what you think they want

All too often you find as I have, that sometimes you are totally ignored by some members. I mean in a sly way, the kind where you quote them, and join in their conversations and yet they never reciprocate.

Its quite disheartening and a confidence killer

My theory is always make a decision 5 days after you thought you had made your mind up ;)