@bobster, this is the reason i didnt reply back to marco or pauls post, let it go, no need to argue with either of those two, they think they are right and nothing will change their minds.

I see this a lot when im optimizing servers, especially on a vps, no matter how high you set php's memory_limit, mysql is just using to much of the memory, then its back to readjusting mysql memory use.

Well your free to believe what you like. Im glad you dont support any of my servers. :)

As a silent observer of this thread, I must say it's some very interesting reading - I'm not placing any 'right' or 'wrong' on anyone, it's just interesting information.

Im glad as well. :)