Hmmm, any ideas on how I could remove the vB4 feel?

It's really tough to do and I haven't really seen anyone accomplish it yet.

But that's true of every software, whether it be something like Joomla, XenForo, or even the earlier vBulletin versions.

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That's coming from a person that isn't even running a vbulletin powered forum. Your xenforo forum looks like a forum. That ultra lite blue text on that screaming white background makes the text virtually impossible to read.
Clean up your own yard before you go criticizing how your neighbor's looks.

I like it.

She offered her opinion which is what the original author asked for. It was not a thread which involved you commenting on my mine and I will comment on yours. You clearly have taken her comments very personal and for what reason remains to be unknown............anyways back to what this is all about nice job with your site I think you are doing a great job and what truly matters is what you and your members of your site think. Great job keep up the great work and best of luck with your site.