ok that solved the problem. but how do i make that a default so EVERY member wont have to go to change it?

You may change it for everyone in Maintenance > execute SQL query > automatic query. Make sure you have given yourself permissions to run queries in your config.php page.

oh jesus, how do i get to the config.php page? thanks for the help!!!

You may want to familiarize yourself with the vbulletin manual. Editing the vBulletin Configuration File

ok that helps me edit the file but i cannot seem to find the config.php file itself. i found every other file possible... queries.php editor.php but not the config.php. im looking in the vbulletin zip folder > upload folder

The very first line of that page tells you where it is:
So, ftp to your site, go to find all your forum files, find the directory 'includes' and in there is the file config.php

Assuming this is the right line of code:
For some reason, I'm still not allowed to execute an sql query.
Here's how I provided it: