I still cant ssh to work and godady isnt exactly helping :(

Last I recall, GoDaddy doesn't offer managed dedicated servers. In such a case, unless you pay them directly for a server admin, you're on your own.

It's always best to go managed in the case you do not know how to modify the core/root server files or re-compile software.

yeah... so I realized that.

Anyways, I have cpanel/whm

Click on the update apache link on the side panel, then click load previous config if its avaible, make sure you check GD

Update apache will only update to the latest installation that CPanel supports, however. If you're looking to upgrade your software to the actual latest version, you'll need to recompile manually or wait it out until CPanel supports the version you're looking to install.

I just did the apache update and it works wonderfully. Thanks for the help guys.